But this post is about talents. We all have them. Some of us are lucky enough to know our talents and are using them every day. But the rest of us are still searching for our hidden talents, wondering if indeed we have any. Most people would agree that once you’ve found them, if you can figure out a way of using them in your working life, then you’ll be pretty sorted. I remember when I was trying to sort my life out and I was mulling this over for quite a while. I read loads of self-help books to try and solve this elusive puzzle but out of all the exercises that I came across there’s one that stood out for me. And it was this.
Think back to when you were a kid and people asked you what you wanted to be when you grew up.
What was on your list? Now, the trick with this isn’t taking the answer to the question literally, but reading between the lines. What do I mean? Well, maybe if I shared my story it might help to explain what I mean.
When I was little I went through a few phases and wanted to be many things. Didn’t we all?
Of course, like everyone, I wanted to be a pop star. My mum sent me to ballet and dance classes and I loved doing all the shows we put on. My friends and I would diligently re-create Michael Jackson dance routines in the playground. Life was generous and as it happened, I was fortunate to be a professional dancer for while. I loved it, but the money was crap and I thought I’d be able to make better use of my business degree. But I will never forget the feeling I got from being on stage; the energy and the buzz were simply awesome.
I travelled a lot as a child between the UK and Paris to see my family and was often the little kid on the plane wearing a big badge accompanied by the airhostess. I think it was this made me want to be an airhostess. I never really followed up on this though, but the glamour of travel has always appealed. My mother spoke eight languages and had travelled a lot, so I must have been inspired by her too.
And finally, I wanted to have my own shop. I would spend hours working out what I’d call it but never got any further than “Chez Alexia” or “Alexia’s shop”. I clearly still needed to work on my creativity back then! I couldn’t tell you what I was selling in the shop, but it was MY shop. Now, I did end up working in the retail industry. I worked at a retailer and for brands that are sold in retailers. And I really enjoyed it; seeing an idea that you’ve come up with or a product you’ve created that is then distributed around the world is pretty cool. Especially when the celebrities go mad for it and you see it in all magazines and on TV! That is very exciting!
Now you’re thinking “So what? Get back to the point!” Well, the point is to look back at those things that I wanted to do as a kid and try to understand what it was ABOUT those things that I liked. WHY did I want to do them? If we can work that out, maybe we can find a way of still doing that but in a slightly different way. So, looking back at my aspirations…
The pop star thing: well I can’t deny that being Leo I do like being on stage, but it was a specific moment on stage that I liked. I used to be part of a tribal fire-breathing dancing trio that would dance at music festivals and clubs (we were VERY cool!). DJ’s would hire us to help them get the crowd going, and that’s what I did – got the crowd going. And THAT is what I loved; when my actions on stage would bring about a massive shift in the energy of the crowd below. Playing with the crowd in that way was epic awesome-ness. Not the pre-rehearsed routines, but responding to the DJ and going with the flow. Being present and in the moment of it all. Total and utter flow – you can’t beat it. Of course doing that now would be a bit inappropriate. But what I can still do now is to bring about a state change for the better in my audiences, whoever they are. If they come away energised and feeling great then I’m buzzing. And if there’s a hint of performance going on there too, then even better!
Now the airhostess bit is pretty obvious. No, it’s not the mopping up after people; it’s the travelling; I love travelling and seeing the world. And I’ve not done enough of it. But, I can travel the world without having to be an airhostess. And I do, I run trainings and events internationally. Tick!
Now, onto the shop. It’s not so much the physical concept that interests me but the broader idea of selling my things, my ideas and myself. Specifically selling ideas that were mine and not someone else’s. I guess that’s why I was never that happy as an employee; I wanted to do MY thing. But remember, we’re always selling ourselves in everything that we do, so this bit could easily apply to anyone.
So, if I just finish by distilling these. I want to sell my ideas and get people to buy into me. I want to share my ideas with audiences in a way that leaves them feeling energized and buzzing. And, I want to see the world as I do it. And, that’s what I’m doing now and I LOVE it! And to think it all started with a little girl dreaming of being a pop star or an airhostess with her own shop.